The Magic of Saying NO
Say No……to projects that you are not passionate about. No to SHOULD. No to GUILT
How many times have you found yourself say yes to projects when inside you say “NO NO NO” ?
Or had the wisdom to say no only to feel guilty about it after?
How many time have you said I should do this, I shoud have said that?
It takes great stength, grace and wisdom to say no to people we love and respect.
Hell its even hard to say no to people we dont like all that much because we feel like we should be able to do it all, or that we are showing weakness when we say no.
I myself have had to cultivate the response, “Let me check my schedule and I will get back to you”
Saying no upfront is hard for me,one because its flattering to be asks but mostly because at the time I think I can do what is asked only to discover I am wrong! Then to back out leaves me feeling like an undependable flake…and I hate flakes!
I use my stock response even when I want to say yes because I like to help and to be in the mix but sometime projects are not in line with my goals at the time. And I need that space to time for clarity to appear.
Everytime I say NO I have the freedom to say yes to committments that are aligned with my life intentions.
It seems that everytime I turn down a project, something better ,something in line with my life and work goals come along and I can joyful and ethusaticly get to SAY YES and jump in Mind, Body and Soul with no regreats or guilt
Utilizing the Magic of No frees up my time and energy to live a life of my creation
Is there something or someone you need to say no to?
What is holding you back?
What would be different if you used the magic of no in your life?
Is there something you have missed out on because you were committed else where?
Comments are encouraged!
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oooo I used to suffer from the disease to please… and now – I put space between me and requests when I get that hit that it’s not something I’m aligned with.
I do tell people that I’ll have to check my schedule and get back to them – and that’s the truth. As a mom and a business coach, and a wife, and a friend – my time is jam packed. So my schedule really is full.
And I’m like you, when I say yes and I really meant no – that guilt and shame of not being able to follow through is worse than just saying no in the first place.
Jenn Givler
May 13, 2008
Isn’t it amazing how much more FUN life is when we honor ourselves and our unique families?
There is growing number of women like you and me that are ready to step up and create positive lives for ourselves and others in an intutive , wholistic approach.
Isnt is an amazing revolution to be part of ?
On the topic of checking my schedule..I would be lost without my brain! Which is a wonderful week at a glance, filled with amazing goddess art appointment/journal book.
There is plently of room to write notes, phone # ’s ideas.
I have tried to be digital, but I need the instant gratification of writting it down, to have something I can quickly open to jot info down, or hang at the park with my kids and review my past and upcoming week.
I have to check it every morning because things disappear in my head! lol
banishthebadmoodmomma
May 14, 2008
This is absolutely true! You have to be realistic about what you can and can’t accomplish. Be honest with yourself and others and you can stay on track much easier. When we say, “Sure I can do that…”, and then don’t follow through… the guilt and shame will eat us up. A simple, “No thanks” will work much better for everyone involved and then we don’t set ourselves and others up for disappointment.
Brandy, I love reading your blog! You are such a smart woman! Keep up the great work!
Stephanie
May 22, 2008